Sunday, October 31, 2010
"Vivir Lo Nuestro"
After this off the chain weekend, I need some great music to accompany the thesising. Nothing fits better than some 80's style Marc Anthony and La India. I'm pretty sure they planned to have the same hair style at this show.
If you see me walking around the library doing a little salsa step or two, with my qualitative research method and identity development theory books, this is why...
Ah, yes. The 80's clothes and hairstyle tops off this classic salsa song.
Latino/a Ethnic Identity Development...bring it freaking on.
...and yes, Marc Anthony's hair is longer than mine...and yes, it's just wrong, but the man is a classic salsa icon.
Friday, October 29, 2010
It's The Freaking Weekend
This is a true picture of the interaction between my apartment mate and I in the morning. Can you guess which one is me?

I'm currently on break at the International Service-Learning Conference which is happening all today and tomorrow. I am LOVING it...but it's exhausting.
Who would have known that talking about getting students involved in service learning, social justice, racial reconciliation, community engagement and global citizenship would be so tiring? But on the plus side, I am learning so freaking much. My thesis is going to be off the chain.
On a happy note, it's the freaking weekend, baby, and I'm gonna have me some fun. Tonight, I get to hang out with one of my student-turned-really-good-friend with his wife. It's going to be the bomb-dot-com reminiscing about our times at the good ol' Letu.
Don't worry readers, you will get a more meaningful entry later on. Peace out.
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Thursday, October 28, 2010
Dive Back Into Identity

After turning in major projects and papers, I am finally able to really get the thesis into the best shape it can be. As I dive back into identity development theories and the benefits of study abroad, I am reminded of the process of how I ended up at this topic. I posted an entry in May, which I think is appropriate to share with y'all again.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Learn: The Practice of Solitude

In this season of life, I am learning the true meaning of solitude. I am an extrovert, and I draw energy from being with people. At the same time, I am human.
How do I balance both my personality tendencies and my priorities of holistic health?
I must embrace solitude.
I love how Richard J. Foster explains it in his book The Celebration of Discipline:
“Solitude is more a state of mind and heart than it is a place. There is solitude of the heart that can be maintained at all times. Crowds, or the lack of them, have little to do with this inward attentiveness. It is quite possible to be a desert hermit and never experience solitude. But it we possess inward solitude we do not fear being along, for we know that we are not alone. Neither do we fear being with others, for they do not control us. In the midst of noise and confusion we are settled into a deep inner silence. Whether alone or among people, we always carry with us a portable sanctuary of the heart. Inward solitude has outward manifestations. There is the freedom to be alone, not in order to be away from people but in order to hear the divine Whisper better (pg. 96-97).”
Solitude is not always about secluding myself away in a cabin in the mountains, even though I would love to. Sometimes we still have the constant “noise” of life when we are by ourselves.
As this semester continues on, solitude is a practice that I hope to integrate in my habits. Either it’s going away for a weekend or just relaxing in my little apartment. By reflecting and being still, I hope to explore the “sanctuary of the heart” and be ready “to hear the divine Whisper”.
But why do we need to practice solitude?
As my boy Foster states, “The fruit of solitude is increased sensitivity and compassion for others. There comes a new freedom to be with people. There is new attentiveness to their needs, new responsiveness to their hurts (pg. 108).”
Preach it, brother.
That’s what I am learning today.
What does solitude mean to you?
Monday, October 25, 2010
Cheaper Than Paint and Canvases

Thank you, LASP, for providing such an amazing study abroad experience. Not only do you serve as my main motivation for my thesis, but you remind me every day that’s its ok to not have all the answers in the world.
Thank you, ipod, for ditching me.
Thank you, blog, for being a creative outlet for me.
Thank you, future job, for being a dream come true.
Thank you, International Service-Learning conference, for being this weekend.
Thank you, Marcel, for being a shell with shoes on.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
"Lady in Spain"
It's a cloudy day here in Indiana with the rain coming...perfect song to listen to while being in your pajamas all day. Don't forget to sip some hot apple cider....with NFL muted in the background.
If you hear me practicing my mouth trumpet, this is why...
Ingrid Michaelson is off the chain and the bomb digity. I wish I was an accomplished mouth trumpeter.
ps~Sorry for all the youtube videos. I know I have a problem.
Saturday, October 23, 2010
"Icing On The Cake"

Below is a StoryCorps video that is very similar to my story (except I’m an only child and Mama Lima is from Guatemala):
I would always get in trouble because I would steal post-it notes, paper clips and highlighters from people’s desks. I would make an “art project” (I think that’s where my love for post-it notes developed). I think I made more work for Mama Lima, but I think she got use to my "art projects" by then. That never stopped her from buying me snacks from the vending machine or giving me candy she would find on people’s desks.
It’s been over 30 years since Mama Lima immigrated from Guatemala to the states, and she still works hard. She still tells me to do my work. Whenever I’m home on break, she still brings me little treats from work. She still inspires me every day.
“There’s nothing that could stand in my way that didn’t stand in yours more. It’s the most important thing for me, having gone to college, and I feel like anything I do on from here on out is ok because I’ve already achieved my dream. Everything else is icing on the cake.”
Yes, mama…I’ll do my homework.
Who is your example of humility?
"Bodies in Urban Spaces"
I know, crazy. Reason #456 why I wouldn't mind living in a big city.
...and yes, the baby sounds do creep me out a bit.
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Learn: G3 Sisters

You can never underestimate the power of friendship. Throughout my college years, I had the privilege of developing friendships that are dear to my heart.
Now that we all are in separate parts of the country, I know that they will always be my “G3 sisters”. Tonight they really pulled through when I texted them some words of my frustration with life and they responded with encouragement mixed in with humor and wittiness. I may have cried tears of laughter...
What is a G3er? Good question. A "G3er" is a female student who had or is currently living on the third floor of Gilbert Hall at LeTourneau University. Get it? Gilbert hall + 3rd floor = G3. Since LeTourneau does not have sororities, floor unity is pretty much what makes up the community at LeTourneau. I lived on G3 for three years and these ladies were my suitemates/roommates/bff and now they are my life long friends. Being an only child, I learned the beauty of sisterhood through their friendships. This lesson I have come to value in hopes of working in residence life when I graduate from grad school in May.
I lurve them to death.
Thank you, G3 sisters, for being there to watch TV and eat buckets of cookie dough when we should’ve been doing our homework during our college years. I long for the day when we reunite and talk into the wee hours of the morning about boys, work, Gilmore Girls, food, and how certain people can pull off skinny jeans.
Bottom line: Take advantage of the friendships you have. You never know when you are going to need encouragement and support...or someone to joke about how Hanson sounds like a bunch of girls.
That’s what one of the things I learned today.
Are you taking your friendships for granted?
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Learn: Define Humility and Listen

Today I realized that I have been blogging quite a bit on the concept of humility, but I never really gave the definition of what humility means to me. It’s like I have been beating around the bush. I blogged about how I saw humility lived out and why pride is important to acknowledge when exploring the topic of humility.
Bottom line #1: Humility is being fully aware of the identity of one’s self while being modest while not being arrogant or prideful. Yet, one can feel insignificant and lower superiority while still maintaining confidence.
It’s funny that ever since I have shifted my blogging to more of an intentional learning journal, I have become more aware of what I learn each day (which is pretty much the point of the assignment). Anyways, as I continue to learn, inside and outside the classroom, I realize the more I need to embrace humility. I probably have stated this in previous blog entries, but the more “education” I receive the more I realize that I really don’t know anything at all.
Funny, huh?
Learning requires humility. Without humility you are not able to receive information, knowledge, or skills to continue on in life. In order to take learning to a deeper level of learning, humility must be the front man on lines. For me, deep learning requires emotion to be put into play. For me to really grasp the deeper part, I may relate back to a memory, person or anything that is a major part of who I am. As I continue to increase my deep learning ability, I must remind myself that humility is a major part of my learning experience. I like to talk. I like to talk a lot. I like to express what is on my mind and what opinions I have about the matter. Yet, if I am to be taken serious and hopefully teach others, I must listen. That’s communication.
That’s what I learned today.
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Learn: The Beauty of Memories

Memories can be a blessing or seem to be a curse. They remind us of the joyful moments of life or uncover some hurt and healing that needs to be done. At the same time, they can be humbling. They can remind us of the lesson learned or that embarrassing moment.
Today was a day full of uncovered memories. From the smallest funniest memories to the painful life changing memories, I was able to look back see the growth. Yes, there are some memories that still need a “happy ending”…but there’s hope.
Monday, October 18, 2010
They Wear "Boo" Jeans

Thank you, Patriots, for winning your game yesterday.
Thank you, Chicago, for being so freaking awesome on Friday.
Thank you, North Park University, for having the 2nd Annual Student Diversity Leadership Conference. It was refreshing to see all the beautiful faces of students from different universities. Also, I may have shaken my booty a little bit when your step team stepped it up.
Thank you, TLC, for contributing to my procrastination.
Thank you, BFF, for not encouraging my corny jokes.
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Learn: Acknowledge Pride

Saturday, October 16, 2010
"Modern Nature"
...perfect song for this perfect sunny Saturday. Thank you, Dan In Real Life, for having an off-the-chain soundtrack. You also do a great job portraying Steve Carrell as a normal sane being.
What makes you shimmy and shake your booty this Saturday?
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Learn: Humility Lived Out

Yesterday the whole world witnessed history when 32 Chilean miners and 1 Bolivian miner, who have been trapped for 65 days, were saved in 22 hours. Luis Urzua, who was the group’s foreman and is now known to be the group’s leader, was the last miner who was brought up to the surface and broke the world record for being underground the longest. When the accident happened on August 5th, the world held its breath to see if there was any chance for any sign of the men. 17 days later, drillers were able to drill with a camera down to the men and they saw a face. Then they found the note on the drill stating the 33 were all alive. Since then the attempts for the rescue of the 33 continued on and ended yesterday.
I’ll be honest and admit that I spent the whole day at my desk watching the live feed of the men being rescued. Even though I missed the first rescuer coming up to the surface, I was still able to catch video clips of the young son crying to meet his beloved father.
I do have a lot of things to say about the event, I do want to stress what is the main point. Humility has been a word that I have trying to define these past couple of weeks. As I watched each of the men being rescued in the Phoenix, humility and solidarity were the two words that I could only think of. Several of the men even bowed down on their knees to thank God for the rescue. Some of them were not ashamed of crying in front of world as they embraced their loved ones.
Can you imagine living underground for 65 days? Without seeing your family? Without having a comfortable bed? Having to not eat more than a spoonful of tuna and a cup of milk those first 17 days? It was hot and dark. It’s crazy to think of the things we take for granted. 33 men.
These men are miners. A majority of them went into the mining business due to the lack of finances. From business men to former soccer players, these men worked for a living because of the responsibility of families. Many of them had children to factor in and even had a couple to put through college.
Each man that was rescued was able to receive a bear hug and encouraging words from the President Sebastian Pinera, a billionaire, with the world watching. A miner hugging a billionaire, because life triumphs over death.
"The only thing I ask, personally, is that you please not treat us like celebrities or journalists," ~ Mario Antonio Sepulveda Espinace, second miner that was rescued.
I am humbled by the event because:
...the men did everything they could do to keep on living.
...each person had a role while they were down in the mine.
...their leader was willing to be the last one rescued. He wanted his workers to be saved.
...these men were patient enough to develop a community underground. Even if there might have been conflict, they kept each other alive.
...when I read more about their stories, solidarity, is the only I can think of that defines their experience.
Monday, October 11, 2010
My Pizza Face Now Thanks You

Thank you, Attribution theory, for reminding that I must not judge and automatically assume things. We all are fallen people.
Thank you, Land of Up weather, for being indecisive these past couple of days. Although others are grumpy about the warm weather, it provides more of a window for me to gear up for the brutal winters.
Thank you, Jumping Bean, for always having yummy drip coffee right outside my office door. Sometimes when my day gets stressful, I like to sit on your couches and let the coffee aroma fill my nostrils.
Saturday, October 9, 2010
"Mystery Zone" by Spoon
...and my black curly hair blowing in the wind.
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
On My Way On Taking Comfort In Rituals

Thank you, savings account, for letting me get my ticket to Texas for Thanksgiving.
That week is going to be...off. the. chain. *fist pump in the air*
Thank you, cell phone, for making a freaking annoying sound in the morning to wake me up.
You make me want to throw you across the room.
Thank you, Mama Lima, for being the bomb-dot-com and loving me for who I am.
You are not afraid to be real with me. You also don't take my crap.
Thank you, cohort, for walking alongside of me during this time called grad school.
Let's rock this trash.
Thank you, BFF, for letting me text you my corny jokes late at night.
It comforts me to know someone in Texas thinks I'm crazy.
Thank you, gospel choir, for singing your heart out at chapel.
Thank you, New England, for being the location of my childhood.
You shaped my worldview and my love for the Patriots.
Thank you, Starbucks, for bringing back the pumpkin spice latte.
I'm well on my way on taking comfort in rituals.
Thank you, Today's Letters, for inspiration.
Thank you, assistantship, for letting me learn how to be a professional.
It's here where my love for community service and education are combined.
*ten awesome gold stars*
What are you thankful for?
Monday, October 4, 2010
Learn: "You Gotta Have 'Ganas'"

I’ll be honest. Grad school is tough and can be a little discouraging. Sometimes it feels like our life is consumed by: projects, readings, thesis, work, cooking dinner, laundry, relationships, finances, life, and etc. Most of the days are consumed with stress. Sleep becomes a foreign concept to most of us. Some of us lose weight, because we don’t have time to eat. Some of us gain weight, because we rely on take out and frozen pizzas to keep us alive. For me, I know that I must continue to find things that continue my momentum going. Going straight from undergrad to graduate, one can feel a little burnt out.
What does the word “ganas” mean? Is it Spanish?
Why, yes it is. The word “ganas” comes from the infinitive word “ganar” which means “to win”. Mr. Escalante told his students , “You have to have ‘ganas’ to learn this stuff”. In this context “ganas” means “to feel like” or “in the mood”. Mr. Escalante says it with this deep tone in his voice while holding a fist to show strength. He is challenging his students to feel it deep within themselves to learn calculus. They have to go into a deeper level and get the motivation from the inside to keep moving forward.
In this clip, the setting is a teacher meeting. They are discussing the future of the school and the lack of resources. You can clearly see what the expectations of the teachers are of their students in this short clip. You can also sense what they were feeling about the situation. The best part of the clip is Mr. Escalante’s response to the situation that is being discussed:
I loved Stand and Deliver ever since I was a little girl. Papa Lima introduced this movie to me and has been quoting lines all my life. Throughout my undergrad, he would always tell me to have “ganas” to the times that I just wanted to quit. Now in grad school, he still repeats, “You gotta have ‘ganas’, Melissa. Just like the movie.”
Not only is the movie an encouragement and an advocacy for urban background students, but also for educators. Since I’m choosing higher education as a career, I strive for being an educator just like Mr. Escalante. He studied his students and saw what worked for them. He did not give up on them when they gave him attitude or trashed his house. He worked with them extra hours in the morning and after school for them to learn calculus.
“Ganas” is what I need to continue on. “Ganas” is what I need to finish what is set out before me. “Ganas” is what I need to encourage and motivate my students. “Ganas” is how I need to learn.
That’s what I learned today.
Sunday, October 3, 2010
Learn: 32 NFL Teams

There are exactly 32 NFL teams and I named 20 of them off the top of my head. How embarrassing. I call myself an avid NFL watcher and I only got half the teams. Papa Lima would've been dissapointed.The worst part is that some of the teams I missed are so easy. I couldn’t believe it. Oh well...
1) Patriots
2) Steelers
3) Bears
4) Texans
5) Cowboys
6) 49’ers
7) Ravens
8) Packers
9) Raiders
10) Dolphins
11) Bengals
12) Broncos
13) Vikings
14) Jaguars
15) Lions
16) Colts
17) Giants
18) Jets
19) Seahawks
20) Titans
Here are the ones I missed (Again, no particular order):
1) Falcons
2) Bills
3) Chiefs
4) Saints
5) Eagles
6) Rams
7) Buccaneers
8) Redskins
9) Pathers
10) Cardinals
11) Browns
12) Chargers
Saturday, October 2, 2010
Background Music
What are some of your favorite soundtracks?
ps-Stayed tuned for what I have learned these past couple of days...
Friday, October 1, 2010
Learn: Cornhole

I learned what the game of cornhole is and how to play it. I have never even heard of the game before. So when I was invited to a cornhole tournament at a friend’s house, you can imagine the confusion I had prior to arriving. My friends encouraged me by saying this is a cultural thing of the Midwest and that I truly will experience the Midwest through playing this game. Well, they were right. (Picture taken from here)
So for my New England/Texas/wherever-you-from friends, I have included information on what is cornhole and how to play it.
So Lima, what the heck is cornhole?
The truth is, who really knows, but the game is great fun for all ages and can be played anywhere!
Cornhole or Corn Toss is similar to horseshoes except you use wooden boxes called cornhole platforms and corn bags instead of horseshoes and metal stakes. Contestants take turns pitching their corn bags at the cornhole platform until a contestant reaches the score of 21 points. A corn bag in the hole scores 3 points, while one on the platform scores 1 point.
Scoring can be swift and the lead may change hands several times in a match before the winner is decided.
The game is generally played tournament style with an individual or team being named the champion at the end of the tournament.” (Information taken from American Cornhole Association website)
Even though it'a a popular game in Kentucky and Ohio, people in Indiana love to play this game.
So why do people play cornhole?
“The biggest reasons to play Cornhole or Corn Toss instead of horseshoes or other similar games is that Cornhole can be played anywhere and everyone can play Cornhole.
If you can aim and toss a corn bag 30 feet, you can master the game of Cornhole - It's great for family outings.
Cornhole can be played anywhere - driveways, parks, backyard, campgrounds, beaches and even in-doors.
Safe for everyone - no metal or pointed objects. Corn bags are made of extra soft 12 oz. duck canvas material and filled with pliable high quality feed corn.
No muss; no fuss. Two cornhole platforms and 8 corn bags and you’re ready to play the game.
Very portable. Can be taken anywhere. Fits in most car trunks and there are fold-down models that are even more portable.
Horseshoes require a sand pit and are hard for the kids to pitch, lawn darts require a lawn and hasn’t been seen since the 70’s, ring toss was made for children and bean bags are for wimps; Cornhole is the game for everyone!
It’s great fun for the whole family.” (Information taken from the American Cornhole Association website)
Once I finally understood the concept, I concluded that it was just like a beanbag toss that I use to play at harvest parties in New England. It did take me a little getting used to the throwing technique. Let’s just say that after a warm up, I impressed the “experts” that I improved greatly.
Watch out, world. Cornhole champ in the making, here.
That’s what I learned today.